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CommentAuthorJackT
- CommentTimeNov 22nd 2009
Trust me it is a game he is 22 and she is probably like 19 18 which means she is young and she doesnt understand what is love
the dude is hurt of the way she treated him and the only way he would fight that and redeem whats she broke inside of him is doing what i said
i didnt mean change as he change his personality
he is probably in the 3 years he spent somehow have a way of living or style of living which he need to change in order to get over her
anyway your true he should wait for the true love
cause if it was true she wouldnt have left him -
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CommentAuthorlucky78
- CommentTimeNov 22nd 2009 edited
Nope mate trust me when a girl leave you this means it over, she just wont go back to someone she left
but its not the same situation if you left her or when a guy break up with a girl.
my advice for you if she didnt care for those 3 years you spend together, you should do the same and be careless
at the end you had her and everything.
plus trust me if she loves you that much she will never ever leave you
i am 100% sure that you will find another girl and say why did i waste my time with this girl that didnt deserve me
you start a new life ur still young , show her that she did a great mistake and you are a great man change the way you live , dress up nicely and do not ever show her that u are sad this will ruin it
my advice for you forget and be careless and dont talk to her again plus start searching for a new girl
it might be hard in the first but trust me this is the only way out.
Be sure you are the winner if u did what i said.A majority of what you said there I disagree with.
Couples break up everyday over nothing, or over pointless arguements or even drinking too much alcohol and not wanting the same takeaway.
Being careless isn't the best way out either because if our fellow member here Devious! was with his girlfriend for 3 years then there was something between them to keep them together.
Being the stronger person in these situation doesn't always leave you on top of your game, infact, it can lead you at the bottom and thats when people start messing up; when they think you can handle being so careless and forgetting about the past and throwing everything behind you before you've even had the chance to think it through.
If you've been in a relationship for this long you will understand that taking the high horse on these situations doesn't leave you a winner, it can leave you without your girlfriend you were with for years, in this instance, 3 years and it can leave you destroyed if you don't sort yourself and the problem out correctly, and not many women go for destroyed men.
That's why laying low and letting time take it's toll until you think it's a calm time to sort things out is a better option. -
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CommentAuthorJackT
- CommentTimeNov 22nd 2009
Well if she cared that much she would try to fix it with him and not leave him
why would he care about someone that didnt care for his feelings!
anyway time will tell if i was wrong or right -
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CommentAuthorJackT
- CommentTimeNov 22nd 2009
I am just cutting the road to him
she may get back to him but it wont be the same and also she would take his breath away before accepting
true love doesnt end easily -
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CommentAuthorlucky78
- CommentTimeNov 22nd 2009 edited
Well if she cared that much she would try to fix it with him and not leave him
why would he care about someone that didnt care for his feelings!
anyway time will tell if i was wrong or rightThings can get blown into a massive proportion in situations like this, nasty comments and stupid curses at each other are naturally part of the line of fire when it comes to arguing and falling out or splitting up and I don't know whether you know this young man or not and his situation but having your feelings hurt when you've seperated is all part of seperating.
Love is a chasing game, you have to keep on your toes and enjoy every day that comes along with it.
And if love was apparent in this relationship then it's worth fighting back for, whether it's just trying to get back once or twice, fighting back is the best option.
If loven't wasn't there then it's best to move on without any rush, take your time and slowly dissolve the sadness and wash it over with other activities like work, having a beer with friends and family and pre-occupying yourself.
If she wanted independance and wanted to focus on her ambitions in life then there might not of been an aspect of the relationship she liked or clearly she might of wanted to give it a rest for a while or something else for that matter.
Devious!, it's best you try and talk to her in a few days and try getting a truthful explanation to why she doesn't want to be with you, ask her if she loved you and why she did all those years, does she want to be with someone else or why does her life ambitions and her future not contain you in them, it's been 3 years and now you want to close the curtain, there must be a reason to it apart from life ambitions and independance.
I hope it gets sorted and meonz, thanks for the discussion, hope we have helped you Devious! -
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CommentAuthorJo-eL
- CommentTimeNov 25th 2009 edited
i feel really bad for you but its amazingly uncanny how similiar your story is too mine!! i wanted to move out of my house and in with my boyfriend but he didnt want to. said he wasnt ready and said i was holding him back from all the things he wanted to do and that he was missing out... so i basically said if thats how you really feel then we shouldnt be together cause i didnt wanna be the blame for him missing out on anything... but he felt terrible after saying all that and now we've completely flip-flopped & he's the one who wants to move in together?!
have you tried talking to her at all since she said it was over?
We broke up last friday. And we didnt speak till the sunday night. She said she would call round monday which she did. She just said she felt like she was panicking and felt trapped. And just said that she wanted to be able to make her own choices without having to have a joint decision all the time. She had been in a 3yr relationship before me. So she feels like she has always been in relationships.
I havn't told her that now I do want to move in with her and I do want to be part of her life, I always thought I would be missing out on something in life, but now I have realised Im not! I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. I want to ring her and tell her all this but I fear that will only make the situation worse! If she's feeling trapped, thats all she would need?I think she might end up regretting her decision in the end... seems like she just had a wee panic about it all & you saying no to moving in might have made her feel a lil on-edge about how serious you are about her. Now i don't know if you saying you woud like to move in would make her happy or make her feel more trapped? But if you didnt break up over anything that either of you did that was detrimental to the relationship then I think she's probably really missing you right now & she'll eventually regret losing you!
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CommentAuthorJo-eL
- CommentTimeJan 24th 2010 edited
I think she might end up regretting her decision in the end... seems like she just had a wee panic about it all & you saying no to moving in might have made her feel a lil on-edge about how serious you are about her. Now i don't know if you saying you woud like to move in would make her happy or make her feel more trapped? But if you didnt break up over anything that either of you did that was detrimental to the relationship then I think she's probably really missing you right now & she'll eventually regret losing you!
I hope is was just a panic and rash decision. I find it so hard to believe she could just end it over something like this, I know she loves me and I just hope she doesn't do something silly like be with someone else, because that would be the end of us. -